A letter to you!
For my first post, I decided to write a letter… a letter to my new friends, my old friends, my husband, my daughter, my old self and my new self.
After the birth of my daughter, Lilah, I had a deeper sense of following my heart, which led me back to my roots in the small town of Kosciusko, Mississippi. One of my fondest memories as a child was visiting the nursing home where my great grandmother, two great aunts, and many friends lived. No matter what chaotic event was going on in my life at the time, I could always go there and feel safe and loved.
When I moved to Nashville in 2003, I began volunteering at Alive Hospice in my spare time. I quickly realized what a privilege it was spending my time with people and their families during their last days. That experience as a child led me to this place with an open heart, and I truly felt my own place in this world was to be with people as they transitioned out of this life. One day, while volunteering, I realized that people did not have the capacity to be present at the end of life if they had not been present during their life. All too often people have regrets about how they lived their life, and for many, it’s too late to make changes. This is when I started thinking about editing my life. The word that kept coming to me was “simplicity”. How do I consciously create more simplicity in my life?
Before becoming a mother, I had control over most aspects of my life. After Lilah, I suddenly felt overwhelmed, and quickly saw there were many things I could not control. I became anxious worrying about everything being perfect. I was exhausted from the pressure of keeping up with the latest fashion, the best home, the Organic – GMO free – local – HOLIEST OF HOLY Food. One day I woke up and said “enough is enough!” I decided not to buy into this any longer, and planned to create a different life for me and my family.
Overconsuming is a slippery slope…the more money you make the more you buy, the more you have the more you want. Before you know it, you have a house and closet full of things and you don’t even know exactly how it all got there. It all becomes overcomplicated. I started de-cluttering my home and organized every area of it. I quickly realized how much calmer I felt. Then, I started doing this for friends, and realized how much calmer they felt. At the same time, I regained my love for nutrition, so I created a health plan that was not overcomplicated, but provided energy to fuel my workouts and get me through those busy days. There is so much nutrition information out there, it is easy to become overwhelmed and paralyzed. Simplicity in every aspect of my life became my best tool.
We have daily pressure to keep up with so many things…. the perfect diet, the perfect body, home, wardrobe, perfect kids, etc. I believe having less clutter and choices in our home, health, and closet, allows us to be more present, but change is never easy. You do not have to do it all at once. Small steps in the right direction leads to BIG changes. Live in your truth. Listen to your intuition. There comes a point when you have to live in your truth and not everybody else’s.
Right now, I am loving bringing you along on my journey. I am not perfect and I do not plan to be perfect. I love that every day I become more and more myself, light hearted, and not taking life too seriously.
To everyone, the meaning of a good life is different, but to me, living a good life is staying true to myself and taking chances. When you spend time with people nearing the end of life, you no longer are concerned with what others think. You know why? Because it just doesn’t matter. You only have ONE precious life, so do YOU, whatever that is.
Stop what you are doing, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and imagine yourself at your happiest moment. Where were you? What were you doing? Go be that person.
Lots of love,